Writers are required to research and educate themselves on whatever topic they may be delving into. Many great writers have stated, “you can’t write about it if you haven’t lived it.” This may be true in many genres of writing, but not so much for academic and scientific. Academia and science use what is known as qualitative and quantitative research; qualitative research being interpretive and quantitative data ranked in units of measurements- dry and devoid of humanness, and the outcome is writing about other people and their issues. There are countless neurological studies on addictions, but few look into intergenerational abusive traumas or spiritual healing.
In my humble search for truth, academic writing-a sour acquired taste-grew on me over the years since University. It expanded my knowledge and fed my need to learn, but really, it was a rabbit hole. The more I read it seemed the more I had to read. For example, when I began writing this treatise, I was reading up on genetic memory and equating it to “blood memory” of which I learned from an Elder from Batchewana. My original question was, “is addiction a genetically inherited trait?” And the following rudimentary argument was formed.
Steven E. Hyman, M.D. classifies addiction as learning disorders and defines addiction as compulsive drug use despite negative consequences. Hyman states that people take drugs solely for the euphoria and pleasure, and “the ability of drugs to produce positive affective; and because their peers are doing it, and for many other complicated psychosocial reasons.”
This got me thinking, that with Hyman’s logic, compulsive drug use without negative consequences cannot be considered addiction. More so, I was inspired to explore the “many other complicated psychosocial reasons,” which seems illusive in academic papers on addiction. It seems to be all numbers and thinking with no heart or spirit.
The medical establishment rarely takes into account the other complicated psychosocial reasons for addictions. These are the literal trauma’s the patient is trying to escape with the addiction. Human consciousness is made up of a variety of knowledge bases that work with our intelligence quotient IQ, emotional quotient EQ capacity. And, most importantly, what some of us in our circles call spiritual quotient.
Spiritual quotient (SQ) can be better understood as spiritual intelligence: a feeling in our hearts that cannot be given to us, it is something we must find on our own. This feeling is so powerful you cannot go a minute without giving thanks or feeling grateful for each breath, and its awesome power will drop any human to their knees. It is more than faith; it is a secure and sacred knowledge of a greater source. So, the body-our physical lives are a working combination of spiritual quotient-from a greater source, and also the physical elements of our emotional and intellectual capacity.
In saying this, and if we think of ourselves as similar to a computer, we’re made up of software and hardware. The software being the spirit with its own SQ and the body is the hardware with its IQ/EQ. The two work together in its own defined harmony that breaths life into us every moment. Essentially we are all just computing life and trying to live in the here and now, and obviously the here and now is the addict’s greatest self-manipulation. The difference between addicts and non-addicts is this: addicts are devoid of IQ/EQ and SQ, and when in deep torment of their trauma, an addict does not care whom they hurt to get that ill medicine. This is all they know that will take away the awful memories.
In my opinion, neurological and psychological studies trying to figure out addictions will never find a cure on their own without the exploration of IQ/EQ and SQ. Most importantly, it must be remembered that addiction is not the deepest level, and is merely a coping mechanism for traumas much deeper affecting the person at their core. Suicide is the final door the person will walk though in this kind of life.
It is abnormal to be happy every single waking minute. We all deal with the ups and downs of life and roll with the punches, so to speak. Work, family, the absorption of daily social media programming, school dynamics as well as many other situations has their positive or negative effects on us, which we take to heart. So, this is the normal ebb and flow of all people, families and communities and how we deal with them is what we perceive as normal. As Rocky Balboa says, “it’s not all rainbows and butterflies.”
Now compound this with the negative aspects of the IRS legacy and their traumas that have affected many of our families, which vastly altered our communities.
These traumas infect our spirit and emotional well-being, which in their darkest moments the only answer seems to be suicide. This is the core, and addiction is merely the last vestige before suicide, which in itself is a slower coping means of suicide, as death by drugs should be viewed as suicide.
Suicide, the final end that murders love and loyalty, that robs families and communities of joy, is what the person lost and went through silently while alive. And, many of us turned our backs. Some even were specifically mean to the person and abused them even more. These are the dark images we are trying to escape: the abuse, the memories, the shame, and the self-worthlessness that presides in our DNA, our family and community.
Unless you have ever been alone and haunted by re-appearing images of your traumas, or been in position for someone to abuse you in the vilest ways, you should hold your comments and opinions on addiction and those with addictions at bay. Drugs and booze help in forgetting these traumas. Some people even become productive functioning addicts when not hindered by their memories. More so, they can be saving someone long enough to get serious help and learn a new way to take back power from the traumas; learn to live without addiction and learn to love themselves.
The darkness is what we fight daily, and no one will ever fully be without the traumatic memories, although the times between slowly dissipate. When in that darkness, you must reach out to other people who have walked this path through the dark and find illumination. Be honest, and listen to the wisdom and apply it to your life. If your loved one refuses to begin their healing stages and are abusive themselves in the family home, then the only choice is tough love. They must be shunned away until they want to re-join the family in a healthy manner.
It is a detrimental impairment for the youth to observe these behaviours and is an abusive burden on the joy all families should enjoy. Remember it cannot be solely spirit or emotion to rid people of this virus. When we pray we must do the footwork, which is why creation provided us with arms, legs, hearts and a brain. Always remember that the healthiest computer is one with the least operational viruses, and we’re all part of the same network.